Why not having sex isn't a bad thing
Would you break up with someone if they didn't have sex with you? Currently trending on global news and social media is the love story of Miss Universe Olivia Culpo and Christian NFL player Tim Tebow. The love story didn't last long as the supermodel allegedly broke up with Tebow after he refused to have sex with her.
Firstly, we don't know Tim Tebow or Olivia Culpo and we certainly don’t know their real relationship status. For instance, Tim and Olivia might just be friends, who knows?
It's important not to believe everything you read online.
I didn't write this blog to gossip and talk about their love story, however it did get me thinking about the importance of virginity. Here are a few of my thoughts:
Virginity is not a bad thing.
Tim Tebow has been vocal about his commitment to abstain from sex until he is married. Our current culture has become desensitised to the importance and power of sex. Everywhere we turn we are bombard with sex. Music is full of it, movies are based on it, people talk about it, and advertisement is covered in it. Sex sells and we live in a sex saturated world.
Virginity is not a sickness that you have to get rid of as quickly as possible. Being a virgin is something to be proud of! You don't have to be ashamed of it. Unfortunately, I feel that in our culture this view is not the case. Growing up in high school and in sports clubs I remember hearing friends brag about their sexual experiences all the time. The question would always be asked, "Have you lost your V plates yet?" It was as if it was a race to lose your virginity.
“Virginity is not a sickness that you have to get rid of as quickly as possible.”
Let’s not view being a virgin as something to be frowned upon, but rather something to be celebrated. I was a virgin until I was married. At 11 years old I heard a preacher talk about the importance of waiting until marriage to have sex. I remember making a commitment that day to save sex for marriage. Im not saying it was easy, but by the grace of God I was able to keep my virginity for my wife. It was one of the best things I have ever done and you can do it too.
You don’t have to put out because people tell you to.
As a teenager I definitely felt the pressure from friends to sleep around. To be honest, I sometimes felt weird that I was saving myself for marriage. People would ask me if I was a virgin and I would reply “yes” knowing that I would be mocked. There is a lot of pressure in the world to do certain things but I think it is important to surround yourself with uplifting friends in your life to encourage and support you.
Maybe you are in a relationship with someone and they are pressuring you to have sex with them. Can I just say - you don’t have too! If your boyfriend or girlfriend is pressuring you to have sex with them then that is not true love, that is called manipulation.
Young girl, if a guy is telling you that he loves you but is pressuring you to have sex with him, I would question his love for you, it sounds like a selfish agenda to me.
Let's look to be in a relationship with someone who pushes us towards Jesus and not away from him. You can be proud to be a virgin and make a stand for what you believe in. People may mock you for your virginity but that is ok. I would rather live a life where I stood out then a life where I just blended into the crowd. Just because everyone is doing it doesn’t mean that you have to.
Being a virgin doesn't make you any less of a man. Being a virgin doesn't make you any less of a woman.
Jesus loves the virgin and the prostitute.
John 8 would probably be my favourite story in the bible. Ill give you a quick summary...Jesus is teaching in front of a large crowd when a bunch of angry religious guys catch a lady in adultery. They decide to throw the lady in front of Jesus, testing how he would respond. In their culture death was the penalty for adultery. However, Jesus says something so scandalous. He says to the angry religious men, “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her.”
How scandalous is Jesus? This lady is clearly guilty but Jesus extends an amazing love to her. These men could smell death and had stones in their hands, but Jesus saved the day… The point of the story is that we all have missed God's standard. Whether it was a little white lie or murder. In all of our brokenness He still loved us. So maybe you've already had sex, that's ok, He still loves you! There is nothing anyone of us could do that would make Him love us any less!
Abstaining from sex is not something you do to earn God’s love, He already loves us. Abstaining from sex until marriage is God’s plan and design. He created us and created sex, it was His idea. When done His way it is actually amazing. I also think that it is never to late to start abstaining from sex and waiting until marriage. You may have made some mistakes in the past but Jesus’ grace is so amazing and you can have a fresh start. He loves you the way you are but doesn’t want to leave you where you are. If you need help in this area talk to a friend, a church leader and ask for assistance.
Jesus loves the virgin, He loves the adulterer, He loves the prostitute...ultimately JESUS loves people.
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